Author: Ness
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The Me I Thought I Had to Be: Letting Go of Perfectionism and People-Pleasing
Healing from trauma often means shedding the masks we wore for protection. This reflection explores perfectionism, people-pleasing, and reclaiming your identity beyond survival.
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When Someone’s Upset With Me and Doesn’t Want to Talk
For trauma survivors, silence in relationships can feel threatening. This personal reflection explores how emotional withdrawal triggers fear, shame, and a nervous system shaped by past disconnection.
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Grounded by Play: How Sensory Moments with My Daughter Anchor Me
Living with C-PTSD, traditional grounding doesn’t always work for me. But sensory play with my daughter has become an unexpected and powerful way to feel present and anchored.
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When “Triggered” Becomes a Trend: Why Language Around Trauma Matters
The words “triggered” and “traumatised” are often misused in everyday language. Here’s why that matters—especially for those living with the real impact of trauma and C-PTSD.
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What C-PTSD Is Really Like (For People Who Don’t Have It)
Complex PTSD isn’t about “dwelling on the past.” It’s the past living in the body. This post offers a personal, trauma-informed look at what C-PTSD really feels like day to day.
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Depression Feels Like Your Body and Mind Asking for Deep Rest — And That’s Okay
Depression can feel like your mind and body are asking for deep rest—not weakness. Learn why slowing down is a valid and necessary part of trauma healing and mental health recovery.
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How I’m Navigating Motherhood with C-PTSD
Navigating motherhood with Complex PTSD can feel overwhelming. In this honest reflection, Ness shares the challenges, emotional triggers, and what’s helping her find strength as a trauma survivor and mum.
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Doesn’t Everybody Have Trauma? Understanding the Spectrum of Human Pain
Does everyone have trauma? Learn the difference between “Big T” and “little t” trauma, and why your pain is valid—even if it doesn’t look like someone else’s.
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Can You Ever Completely Recover From C-PTSD?
Can you truly recover from Complex PTSD? This post explores the myth of complete healing, what recovery really looks like, and how to build a meaningful life after trauma.
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When Healing Isn’t Linear (and That’s Okay)
Healing from C-PTSD is not a straight path. It’s messy, non-linear, and full of ups and downs. This post explores the reality of trauma recovery with compassion and honesty.
Traversing Trauma 